Kids are Dogs, Teens are
Cats
by Adair
Lara
I just realized that while
children are dogs ... loyal and affectionate ... teenagers are
cats.
It's so easy to be a dog owner.
You feed it, train it, boss it around. It puts its head on your knee
and gazes at you as if you were a Rembrandt painting. It bounds
indoors with enthusiasm when you call it.
Then around age 13, your
adoring little puppy turns into a big old cat.
When you tell it to
come inside, it looks amazed, as if wondering who died and made you
emperor. Instead of dogging your doorstep, it disappears.
You won't see it again until it gets hungry ... then it pauses on
its sprint through the kitchen long enough to turn its nose up at
whatever you're serving. When you reach out to ruffle its head,
in that old affectionate gesture, it twists away from you then gives you a
blank stare, as if trying to remember where it has seen you
before.
You, not realizing that the dog
is now a cat, think something must be desperately wrong with it.
It seems so antisocial, so distant, sort of depressed. It won't go on
family outings. Since you're the one who raised it, taught it to
fetch and stay and sit on command, you assume that you did something
wrong. Flooded with guilt and fear,you redouble your efforts to
make your pet behave.
Only now you're dealing with a
cat, so everything that worked before now produces the
opposite of the desired result. Call it and it runs away. Tell it to sit
and it jumps on the counter. The more you go toward it, wringing your
hands, the more it moves away.
Instead of continuing to act
like a dog owner, you can learn to behave like a cat owner. Put a
dish of food near the door and let it come to you.
But remember that
a cat needs your help and your affection too. Sit still and it
will come, seeking that warm, comforting lap it has not entirely
forgotten. Be there to open the door for it.
One day your grown-up child
will walk into the kitchen, give you a big kiss and say, "You've
been on your feet all day. Let me get those dishes for
you."
Then you'll realize that your
cat is a dog again.
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